Congratulations! You're going to be a father. Along with the excitement, there are probably plenty of questions and concerns running through your mind right now, too. All new dads go through that, no matter how calm others might want you to believe they are.
There are lots of sources that may provide answers to your questions: books, articles, friends who are already dads, or even your own father. Here is some information that may answer a few questions and help you feel more prepared for this exciting, life-changing event.
Nothing will make you feel closer to your partner and child as being involved in the pregnancy. It will also help your partner feel more relaxed and secure. Some ideas:
Go with her to prenatal checkups.
Attend childbirth preparation classes. (These classes help you both know what to expect during labor, delivery and baby's first weeks.)
Be present for your child's birth.
Interview pediatricians.
Prepare for baby's arrival by shopping, painting, etc.
Make a healthy start
Every parent-to-be hopes for a healthy child, and a healthy pregnancy can help make that wish come true. Here is where you can plan an important role.
Help your partner stay healthy by eating a good diet along with her. It will be easier for her to say no to poor food choices if you do the same.
Choose to live without tobacco, alcohol and drugs - all of which can be dangerous for your baby.
Exercise is great for your partner and you, as long as it's not too strenuous.
Your partner may be physically uncomfortable and she is subject to hormonal changes that can affect her moods. An understanding attitude from you can make a big difference.
Minimize stress. Women report conflict with their partners is a key source of stress during pregnancy, and studies show that women reporting high stress during pregnancy are more likely to have babies with health problems.
Talk about it. There are many new feelings associated with becoming a father. Don't be afraid to say what's on your mind.
Packing for the hospital Preparation is the key to a smooth trip to the hospital. With your partner, make a checklist of things to take along. Here are a few items to get you started.
Car Seat
Going-home outfit for baby
Toiletries, including things for you if you're staying with mom. And don't forget a pair of pants to sleep in.
Games, magazines and other distractions
Camera and extra film
Snacks for you
Phone number of people you'll want to call
Change for vending machines